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J. PATRICK REDMOND was born and raised in southern Indiana and recently returned to his home state after sixteen years of living in South Florida and teaching for the Miami-Dade County Public School System. Presently he teaches English Composition at the University of Southern Indiana. Patrick holds a BA in English from Florida International University in Miami and an MFA in creative writing and literature from Stony Brook University in Southampton, New York. He is a contributing blogger for the Huffington Post, and his writing has appeared in the NOH8 Campaign blog, the Southampton Review, and in the Barnes & Noble Review’s Grin & Tonic. He is also the 2012 recipient of the Deborah Hecht Memorial Prize in Fiction. Some Go Hungry is his first novel, and when asked about it, Patrick says, “It’s about God, guns, gays, and green beans.” Additional information is available at jpatrickredmond.com.

An Open Letter to Diana Medley of Sullivan, Indiana

Dear Ms. Medley:

I am a teacher. I am a fellow Hoosier born and raised in Vincennes, Indiana. And I am gay.

In 1986 a Lincoln High School classmate of mine perceived to be gay was murdered and my hometown reacted with indifference to the crime. They were apathetic. It seemed they thought “eh, it’s just a gay guy.” You cannot begin to understand the impact gossipmongers, “good Christians like you,” and sermons from local pulpits regarding my classmate’s murder had on my developing psyche and self-esteem. Like my classmate, I too was struggling with my sexual orientation. Inherently on some level I’d always known, even as a small child, that I was different from other boys. I did not understand my attraction only that it was part of me. My first memory is of a teenage grill cook in my grandfather’s restaurant who happened to have an Adam’s apple. I remember thinking I wanted an Adam’s apple when I got older; I was attracted to the masculinity of it.

You announced to your community — my community — that gay people have no purpose. As an educator I find it reprehensible that you, a special needs teacher, would say such a thing. No person, teen or otherwise, should ever be told they have no purpose. I would never utter words such as yours to my students in class or in press. There was a time in this country when the very children you care for daily were considered to have no purpose. They would’ve been locked in an asylum away from public view unable to receive an education or taught to live independently.

I will not debate you on the Bible. You and I have fundamentally different beliefs regarding the Word. I will however, as a gay man, tell you my purpose:

  • My purpose is to love my mother, father, and brother;
  • My purpose is to love my friends, neighbors, colleagues, and students;
  • My purpose is to learn about the world around me, to educate myself and celebrate diversity;
  • My purpose is to practice compassion and empathy for those less fortunate than I;
  • My purpose is to seek truth and light, to do what is right, to help others, and to give even when I have nothing for myself;
  • My purpose is to trust in the higher power, one that loves all it creates;
  • My purpose is to educate our nation’s youth, to share knowledge, ethics, literature, dreams, ideas, and hope;
  • My purpose is to write, to explore, to stumble, to learn from my mistakes and share my lessons;
  • My purpose is to be true to my God, my country, my family, my friends, my employer, and most importantly to me;
  • My purpose is to let America’s youth know I, too, once felt abandoned, ashamed, lost, unloved, and worthless;
  • My purpose is to let America’s youth know that because of my family’s love and with the support of friends I found my place in the world;
  • My purpose is to be filled with joy and experience joy with others;
  • My purpose is to live in grace;
  • My purpose is to shout from the highest mountain that today, because of my experience and the dismissal of people like you, I am a proud gay man!

What you have done, Ms. Medley, by announcing to our community that “gays have no purpose” is scar and destroy the self-worth of countless Wabash Valley LGBT teens who, by whatever means, heard your hateful and vitriolic words. You are not representative of Christianity. You are not representative of Christ’s message. You are certainly not representative of love. And you are not representative of those Hoosiers that live near you –the ones that love thy gay neighbor and love me.

Your purpose, it seems, by making such an anti-gay remark is to discriminate, to belittle, to exclude and hate, and to destroy. LGBT teens across our nation are struggling and many, after listening to folks like you, choose to take their life. Now it’s clear, you may count yourself among those who’ve come before spewing similar vile and venomous words and you share responsibility for the deaths of LGBT teens everywhere that’ve been beaten, committed suicide, or were murdered because of hate. There is only one choice here and it is yours. With your words and actions you now have chosen to wear their blood on your hands.

Yes, Ms. Medley, your purpose is anti-Christ.


J. Patrick Redmond
Vincennes, Indiana and Miami, Florida










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4 Comments on “An Open Letter to Diana Medley of Sullivan, Indiana”

  1. Kyla April 12, 2014 at 12:03 pm #

    Very well put Pat and shame on you Ms. Medley!!!!

  2. Janet Stark August 17, 2014 at 1:13 am #

    I remember this. I lived in Indianapolis In at that time. It seemed to me that nothing was done in getting justice for this boy. What kind of investigation did they have at that time? This cold file case should be reopened.

  3. Salli Schaefer October 14, 2014 at 12:34 pm #

    I am in tears. You are a beautiful soul.
    You are a gift to our world.
    Keep speaking. Do Not stop!!!


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